| Author | Necklace as a christmas gift |
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So i bought a cross necklace for this girl i liked.
Idk, we went out for lunch and stuff and we had small chats
But after christmas , and the start of 2017, we kind of drifted apart
Like we hardly talk to each other anymore
There's just this feeling like she doesn't want to talk to me and stuff
I just feel like I screwed up somewhere and we don't have the same classes anymore so we don't really get to talk,
I wouldn't have a problem asking her through phone for lunch sometime, but now it just seems so awkward asking her or even messaging her.
Shes like the kind of girl who is probably an introvert... Somewhere there
Was giving her the necklace a bad idea? Did I go too far?
Ps: She's a christian so a cross necklace would symbolize christ. |
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I'm guessing you're quite young?
You may have gone a little too far if you didn't really know her for very long / very intimate relationship.
Bite the bullet and ask her, the sooner you learn to just ask a girl something the better it will pay off in life.
The worst she can do is say no, you have nothing to lose. It's better she says no tomorrow than you wondering for ages and ages.
Well the worst she can do is hunt you down and kill you as you sleep, but that's not gonna happen. |
So i bought a cross necklace for this girl i liked.
Idk, we went out for lunch and stuff and we had small chats
too little background. Your next step should depend on your honest intention behind the gift. Saying you "like" someone is quite the most vague choice of expression to be of any use. |
I am 19 this year, still young? yeap.
for virtual_vitrea:
so what do u suggest i do :/
for Meshy:
But isn't asking her now considered suicide? I feel that the gift was a mistake because we really aren't that close yet. Would taking it slow and just talking with her first be much better? |
Who knows may be there's something else and she's just scared that you moved a little fast.
What if you actually talk with her and know what the actual problem is.
Avoiding is not always a good option.
Just convince her to meet you and talk with her.
Face to face talk will get you somewhere.
At least it won't haunt your mind what went wrong.
See if she says - yeah the necklace was too much you can console her that it was just q small Christmas gift and doesn't mean too much. And also in future you can know in a better way - what to gift and what not.
Secondary - there are chances she's just scared and talking with you face to face might solve everything.
Just try it. :) |
Yeah im gonna consider asking her to come lou sang with us. ( chinese tradition ) in a week or two
Hopefully that will work :/
Feel that she gonna say no though |
But isn't asking her now considered suicide?
suicide how? You'ee going to jump off a bridge after?
If she says no, move on, you'll meet other girls in your life, you'll be happy with them, you'll forget this girl even existed. |
Yeah im gonna consider asking her to come lou sang with us. ( chinese tradition ) in a week or two
No No No
That's definitely wrong. You made the same mistake before - going fast.
Just meet for a coffee or something, spend an hour or two. Just you both.
Why do you want to complicate things? |
us
by us u mean a bunch of mutual frens or ur family lol |
| I am just two years older so move at your own pace and do what you feel is right, you will make mistakes( like you did with necklace) but its all part of learning and maybe she finds it cute but take things slow for sure and ah.. explore other options at such young age |
Well, I'll tell you what I do and I find it a quite convenient way to solve the too much thinking:
Just ask her directly and make sure you receive a direct answer, then your brain will stop bothering you about it. |
| And no, you are not young. You're young for kids, not young to make gifts. |
You shouldn't ask guys, who are not living in your culture and barely know you or the girl how to handle this things. Customs of getting in touch with girls or boys are very different around the earth. :)
Just try things out and if you feel unsecure, ask your family or friends for advice. They know you better than us. :) |
| Don't listen to him, my advice is the best ! |
